Meredith (navy Girl) sent me a pm and said she had done so in her post, because of that I checked my message box, what a surprise ! It seems tha t many members had sent me a private message at some point , mostly around Christmas, and I had no idea. I never even think about checking that, on my cat forum it is set up to send me an email so I know there is a message or I would miss those to. I have now gone in and changed my settings so I will I will know. To those of you that sent me a pm and got no response I apologize, I did not knowingly ignore you and I feel bad. I will do better now that I am aware.