navyflygirl
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Hello, everyone!
I will go ahead and apologize now, as this will probably be pretty long. I stumbled across a Husky forum not long after we got our Ghost and it has been my sanity with her. So much so, that I sought out a forum for Cocker Spaniels so that maybe I can get some help with Lulu's issues. As I said in my introduction, I have zero experience being the primary caretaker of dogs, as my career has never permitted me the time to properly care for and socialize a dog. So, this summer I found myself engaged and transferring to a non deploying billet, and suddenly I have 2 wonderful dogs, whom I love dearly even though sometimes I think they're going to drive me insane. Here's to hair dye to cover those grays, right?
Anyway, Lulu did not get a very good start in life, and I desperately want to help her with her behavioral issues, but what works with Ghost doesn't always work with Lulu and vice versa. My fiance adopted Lulu from his then girlfriend's family when she was 7 months old, she's now 4.5. The original owners got her from a BYB in their neighborhood, with no paperwork and no information on health problems in the family. So far we've been exceptionally lucky, and the only health issue she has is Lip Fold Pyoderma, which we are treating. I just pray that she doesn't have to deal with the massive health problems that my childhood Cocker, Lady had (I suspect my parents got her from a BYB as well, way back in the early 80's). As lucky as we have been health wise, she has some pretty bad behavioral issues. Aaron, my fiance, suspects that the girlfriend's family mistreated her at least some, and he knows for a fact that she spent the majority of the time in a crate just howling for attention from the owners. They pretty much just yelled at her for it, and never once tried to socialize her with other dogs or people. They gave her up when their 15 year old daughter (girlfriend's younger sister) got pregnant, and Aaron rescued her so she wouldn't be dumped into a shelter or even worse home. After he and the girlfriend broke up, Aaron and Lulu lived a little isolated in a little apartment until I showed up.
Aaron knew from the start that Lulu had issues with other dogs, so instead of working with her, he never took her to a park or put her in a training class, just kept her in the apartment with an occasional walk. She is wonderful with the cats, but freaks out any time a dog she doesn't know gets too close, and charges the dog snapping, snarling, and barking. She is also very short tempered with Ghost, and Aaron had to physically restrain her last week from attacking Ghost over an apple core that they got ahold of (yes, we know the seeds were bad and were trying to get it away from them). Ghost is very playful and has loads of energy, and when she tries to play with Lulu, Lulu will not have any of it and snaps at her. When this happens, we try to redirect Ghost to play with us so Lulu can have her personal space and calm down. Aaron never realized that this was a problem, but we have discovered that she fiercely resource guards. Aaron and I have no problem with trying to take her food dish away, but we don't know how she would react if someone else (ie a child) tried to do the same. If another dog approaches while she's eating, it's game over, even though she thinks nothing of going up and shoving another dog away from its dish to eat its food (we had to put her on a diet, Aaron let her get a little fat so that probably isn't helping). The bigger problem is with toys. She will growl at Aaron if he tries to take a toy, even while playing fetch, and she has tried to bite me several times when I tried to take the frisbee to throw for her again. She just adores fetching balls and frisbees (she's a great little frisbee catcher), she just doesn't want to give it up to be thrown again. She actually covers the toy and growls, and if we get too close she snaps. We've been taking her to parks with Ghost to help her socialize a little, but a dog got too close not too long ago while she had a ball, and she did her "lets run off the dog" routine and the dog turned and attacked. I felt bad for her because she got hurt, and I really want to help her learn how to get along better so that doesn't happen again. It's also really not fair to her to leave her behind when we take Ghost out, because Ghost really needs the interaction and exercise. The last major problem that we are dealing with is that she is a submissive piddler, her other issues are more annoying than dangerous. It's not excitement, it's very much a submissive thing. You have to pet her on her terms, you can't just reach out and pet her at will. Also, regardless of her desire, you have to be down on her level instead of hovering over her. Even when we follow her cues, she will still pee sometimes, and in the last week has nailed a brand new couch (was Aaron's fault, he ignored the signals) and our bed. Is there anything that can be done with that? We don't punish her at all for it, but we both thought that by 4.5 she'd have grown out of it. We've had her checked by vets a few times now, and there are no underlying health problems.
My biggest concerns for her are that we don't want her to get hurt, and we don't want someone else to wind up getting bitten. Aaron and I want to have children, but we need to work out her guarding issues before we can comfortably bring a child into the house. I watched her pin a friend's 4 year old against a wall once trying to take food (she got punished for that one), and I don't want to put her in a situation that would compromise her or another person. We also desperately don't want to rehome her, because we firmly believe that she can be helped. So far, none of our methods have really worked with her. We have been trying desensitization as well as water bottles, and while that stops the behavior short term, we haven't seen any long term improvement. I finally convinced Aaron to put her in formal training, as our trainer for Ghost is wonderful, and she tested into the intermediate class. I'm recuperating right now from major ankle surgery, so as soon as I am able we are going to start class with her. We've been told that Ghost has a lot of potential to be a therapy dog, and as sweet as Lulu can be, I'd love to get her into that program as well. She's been so sweet with me since I had surgery, and I've had a constant rotation of Ghost, Lulu, and Gremlin (kitty) curled up with me on the couch Both dogs have actually been amazingly respectful of the crutches, I was a little worried about both, but they have been awesome.
If you've read this far, I really appreciate it. This did sort of turn out to be a novel, but I really didn't want to leave any of the big stuff out. Any advice at all would be appreciated, and I look forward to getting to know you guys! Thanks again.
Meredith
I will go ahead and apologize now, as this will probably be pretty long. I stumbled across a Husky forum not long after we got our Ghost and it has been my sanity with her. So much so, that I sought out a forum for Cocker Spaniels so that maybe I can get some help with Lulu's issues. As I said in my introduction, I have zero experience being the primary caretaker of dogs, as my career has never permitted me the time to properly care for and socialize a dog. So, this summer I found myself engaged and transferring to a non deploying billet, and suddenly I have 2 wonderful dogs, whom I love dearly even though sometimes I think they're going to drive me insane. Here's to hair dye to cover those grays, right?
Anyway, Lulu did not get a very good start in life, and I desperately want to help her with her behavioral issues, but what works with Ghost doesn't always work with Lulu and vice versa. My fiance adopted Lulu from his then girlfriend's family when she was 7 months old, she's now 4.5. The original owners got her from a BYB in their neighborhood, with no paperwork and no information on health problems in the family. So far we've been exceptionally lucky, and the only health issue she has is Lip Fold Pyoderma, which we are treating. I just pray that she doesn't have to deal with the massive health problems that my childhood Cocker, Lady had (I suspect my parents got her from a BYB as well, way back in the early 80's). As lucky as we have been health wise, she has some pretty bad behavioral issues. Aaron, my fiance, suspects that the girlfriend's family mistreated her at least some, and he knows for a fact that she spent the majority of the time in a crate just howling for attention from the owners. They pretty much just yelled at her for it, and never once tried to socialize her with other dogs or people. They gave her up when their 15 year old daughter (girlfriend's younger sister) got pregnant, and Aaron rescued her so she wouldn't be dumped into a shelter or even worse home. After he and the girlfriend broke up, Aaron and Lulu lived a little isolated in a little apartment until I showed up.
Aaron knew from the start that Lulu had issues with other dogs, so instead of working with her, he never took her to a park or put her in a training class, just kept her in the apartment with an occasional walk. She is wonderful with the cats, but freaks out any time a dog she doesn't know gets too close, and charges the dog snapping, snarling, and barking. She is also very short tempered with Ghost, and Aaron had to physically restrain her last week from attacking Ghost over an apple core that they got ahold of (yes, we know the seeds were bad and were trying to get it away from them). Ghost is very playful and has loads of energy, and when she tries to play with Lulu, Lulu will not have any of it and snaps at her. When this happens, we try to redirect Ghost to play with us so Lulu can have her personal space and calm down. Aaron never realized that this was a problem, but we have discovered that she fiercely resource guards. Aaron and I have no problem with trying to take her food dish away, but we don't know how she would react if someone else (ie a child) tried to do the same. If another dog approaches while she's eating, it's game over, even though she thinks nothing of going up and shoving another dog away from its dish to eat its food (we had to put her on a diet, Aaron let her get a little fat so that probably isn't helping). The bigger problem is with toys. She will growl at Aaron if he tries to take a toy, even while playing fetch, and she has tried to bite me several times when I tried to take the frisbee to throw for her again. She just adores fetching balls and frisbees (she's a great little frisbee catcher), she just doesn't want to give it up to be thrown again. She actually covers the toy and growls, and if we get too close she snaps. We've been taking her to parks with Ghost to help her socialize a little, but a dog got too close not too long ago while she had a ball, and she did her "lets run off the dog" routine and the dog turned and attacked. I felt bad for her because she got hurt, and I really want to help her learn how to get along better so that doesn't happen again. It's also really not fair to her to leave her behind when we take Ghost out, because Ghost really needs the interaction and exercise. The last major problem that we are dealing with is that she is a submissive piddler, her other issues are more annoying than dangerous. It's not excitement, it's very much a submissive thing. You have to pet her on her terms, you can't just reach out and pet her at will. Also, regardless of her desire, you have to be down on her level instead of hovering over her. Even when we follow her cues, she will still pee sometimes, and in the last week has nailed a brand new couch (was Aaron's fault, he ignored the signals) and our bed. Is there anything that can be done with that? We don't punish her at all for it, but we both thought that by 4.5 she'd have grown out of it. We've had her checked by vets a few times now, and there are no underlying health problems.
My biggest concerns for her are that we don't want her to get hurt, and we don't want someone else to wind up getting bitten. Aaron and I want to have children, but we need to work out her guarding issues before we can comfortably bring a child into the house. I watched her pin a friend's 4 year old against a wall once trying to take food (she got punished for that one), and I don't want to put her in a situation that would compromise her or another person. We also desperately don't want to rehome her, because we firmly believe that she can be helped. So far, none of our methods have really worked with her. We have been trying desensitization as well as water bottles, and while that stops the behavior short term, we haven't seen any long term improvement. I finally convinced Aaron to put her in formal training, as our trainer for Ghost is wonderful, and she tested into the intermediate class. I'm recuperating right now from major ankle surgery, so as soon as I am able we are going to start class with her. We've been told that Ghost has a lot of potential to be a therapy dog, and as sweet as Lulu can be, I'd love to get her into that program as well. She's been so sweet with me since I had surgery, and I've had a constant rotation of Ghost, Lulu, and Gremlin (kitty) curled up with me on the couch Both dogs have actually been amazingly respectful of the crutches, I was a little worried about both, but they have been awesome.
If you've read this far, I really appreciate it. This did sort of turn out to be a novel, but I really didn't want to leave any of the big stuff out. Any advice at all would be appreciated, and I look forward to getting to know you guys! Thanks again.
Meredith